Some of the things I hear the most from mothers who have thought about homeschooling or do think about homeschooling is; “I don’t have the patience to do that,” or “I’m not smart enough to teach,” and even, “I’m not cut out for this.” Well mamma, today I want to help change your mindset. Today I want to change your, ‘I can’t,’ to an “I can.”
A Henry Ford quote that has become quite famous in our house, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't – you're right,” emphasizes how much attitude determines our success or failure. And that goes for all areas of life, not just homeschooling. Bike riding for instance.
When a child is learning to ride a bike, we notice the frustration in the process. “I can’t,” statements falling off the tongue like leaves fall off of trees. Remember? And as long as that child continued to think “I can’t,” they couldn’t. It wasn’t until after much practice (action), and beginning to believe and speak (action) “I can,” (confidence), that the know-how started to kick in, and before long they did it! They could finally ride that bike! Their action built their confidence.
Now, what about the one giving the bike riding lesson? Can you also imagine for a moment, the frustration the teacher has when seeing the student struggle, and they just can’t seem to find the right things to say or do to help? But then something happens. The brain begins to assess the situation, see what is not working, begins to see what is driving that student, and then makes the needed adjustments (action), to fit the student’s personality and begins to teach in a new way. Suddenly the teacher sees progress in the student (confidence). The teacher’s action built confidence. This is what I want to convey to you today, that action builds confidence.
It is the same in homeschooling. Flip the script where the rider is your child(ren), and you are the teacher. You don’t have to have it all figured out or know all the things before doing this.
After fifteen-plus years of homeschooling, I still don’t have it all figured out. We have changed our strategy yet again this year. It is a process. What matters is, do you feel called to this ministry? Because that is what it is; a ministry. If the answer is yes, then you ARE cut out for this.
You have heard it said before, but I want to stress it here our Father does not call the qualified, He qualifies the called. Sister, if He called you to this, it is in you to do this, and He will bring you through it. But your confidence will not be built unless you take a ‘first step’, and begin to take action.
Begin by reaching out to a seasoned homeschooler, then do a little research, and begin to see how great this journey can be. Those few action steps alone will build enough confidence to take your next steps. And as Marcus Garvey said, “With confidence, you have won before you have started.”